About Us

Jeff Allen

Born and raised on a farm in Kenya in 1949 with my parents, 2 brothers and a sister. We moved to Australia in 1965 to complete my education both in the classroom and on the street. I served an Apprenticeship in BHP steelworks in Newcastle, NSW and also qualified as a Marine Engineer. Left Australia in 1971 and basically sailed the world in all kinds of vessels until settling in England in 1979, the year I married Susie. I still continued to work on ships and sail the oceans, something that was not very compatible with married life. In 1990 I was separated from my family and in the Persian Gulf when I realised I was facing a crucial moment in my life. Do I remain independent and ‘at large’ or do I have the courage to go back and do what it takes to rebuild my family? I made the right choice and gave up my job and went home. Soon after returning home I attended a Psychology of Vision workshop and within a year I had become a workshop promoter and subsequently a trainer and facilitator in my own right. I have now been teaching since 1996. I still travel the world but now I do it to teach, to teach about relationships, about happiness and often Susie comes with me.

Sue Allen

My early childhood was spent in London in between my dad’s postings to Sri Lanka and the USA. When we moved to Washington DC more permanently I spent my teenage years in an exciting time politically – Kennedy, Vietnam, Watergate, and Civil Rights were the background to learning about cheerleading and curling my hair. Back to the UK and at the University of Sussex the scene was set for my first heartbreaking relationship; my first marriage with a co-student lasted 5 years. We didn’t have any children, but the business in educational publishing we had built together ensured the break-up was messy and prolonged. Towards the end of this process I met Jeff and we sailed the seas (Mediterranean and Altantic) mostly together for about 5 years before I fell pregnant and we married and settled in Wiltshire. While the children were young I alternated between running a nursery school at home, and taking the children to meet up with Jeff wherever he was working. After we split up I trained as a teacher and now I combine being a Psychology of Vision trainer and coach with working in schools to teach teenagers things about relationships I wish I had known at age 14.

Our Marriage

We were married in a registry office in Wantage, Oxfordshire. Susie was 6 months pregnant and it was a great day, The sun shone and we had the reception at Susie’s dad’s house. We had had a long on and off courtship which had stored up many unresolved issues but we were confident we had what it took. We moved to a small village in Wiltshire, started a family and went about our lives. Jeff spent a lot of time away and did all the things a sailor does. Basically we had no idea what we were doing, so subsequently we started to grow apart, with deadness, affairs, fights and loads and loads of blame. Eventually after reaching the no speaking stage we separated.

At some point Jeff finally got the courage to start working on the relationship. We were still separated but at least the fighting stopped and both of us started to study the dynamics of relationships and what drives them. We are now both Psychology of Vision trainers and teach from our experience. Having made all the mistakes we feel we speak with a certain authority, and it is our desire that we help other people with their relationships so they don’t become as bad as ours did. Now we feel we can truthfully and gratefully use the standard phrase, ‘we are happily married with two grown up children.’